The way that we found out about the adoptive agency with our son was through a friend. My husband worked with a guy that just adopted their son. We planned a dinner date so that we could get to know them better and receive more information about adoption. It was so nice knowing someone that had just adopted. We could talk to them about our concerns and ask questions we were not comfortable asking our social worker. We ended up becoming really good friends with this couple.
When we started the adoption process they helped us with completing all the paperwork, create our family profile book, but most importantly, they were there for emotional support. To be able to pick up the phone and get reassurance when you’re having a hard day is priceless. Believe me, when you are going through adoption you will have hard days and hopeful days. You will need support.
A couple of weeks after we brought our son home, our friends brought us dinner and provided guidance during this transition. As our children got older they were able to play together and go to each other’s birthday parties. I loved that my son had a friend that was adopted too. As my son began to understand more about adoption, we shared that his friend, Reese, was adopted too. He thought that was cool.
Three years after we adopted our son, our friends were going through the adoption process again. This time we were able to be the ones to offer support. It was a blessing to us that we were able to be there for them now. The agency, that we decided to adopt our daughter with, believe it is very important to have other people in your life that have adopted. We were asked to get together with two couples that were in the process of adopting too. We met at the park a couple of times and went out to eat. The other couples had not adopted yet, but did have biological children. My husband and I were able to offer support again. They had many questions just like we once did.
I do not know what we would have done with out our friend’s advice and encouraging words. No one else understood what we were going through, except them. We will be thankful to them for the rest of our lives. Yes you do have your family and friends there for support, but it not the same as someone that has the same experiences as you. Now my son has several friends that are adopted. I believe it is important for our child to also be surrounded by kids that have similar experiences. They will be able to talk to one another about their birth stories when they get older. He will have friends that understand his emotions. What a gift we can give to our children.