Comments on: Not About Me http://domestic-infant.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/not-about-me Blog with information on open adoption. Includes advice, tips, concerns, and news articles about open adoption. Birthparent and Adoptive parent blog on open adoption. Articles, information, and news about domestic adoption Thu, 02 Feb 2012 10:50:39 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Open Adoption Roundtable: Privacy — U.S. Infant Adoption http://domestic-infant.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/not-about-me/comment-page-1#comment-69 Open Adoption Roundtable: Privacy — U.S. Infant Adoption Wed, 07 Oct 2009 14:46:30 +0000 http://u-s-infant.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/07/02/not-about-me#comment-69 [...] blogged briefly and specifically about this a few months [...] [...] blogged briefly and specifically about this a few months [...]

]]> By: glenda collazo http://domestic-infant.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/not-about-me/comment-page-1#comment-31 glenda collazo Mon, 13 Jul 2009 15:30:35 +0000 http://u-s-infant.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/07/02/not-about-me#comment-31 I'm a foster parent. And I have just adopted 2 boys. one is 3 years old and the other is 2 years old. Am ready to adopt my 16 year old daughter. I don't share much info about the whys they were taken from their parents. I feel that when the time comes I want to be the one to let them know. I make sure that they see their siblings and I constantly tell them how lucky I am to adopt them. my 3 year old sees his parents on holiday. I have learn to be very careful around them. I know is been hard for them to lose their child. so when we get together it doesn't bother me when my son cause his parents mom and dad. I tell my 3 year old how lucky he is to have 2 set of parents who love him. I would love to do the same for my 2 year old but because of their situation is not possible. however I do tell him how much his parents love him. I even have a pic of their parents on their lifebook. One thing I have learn form my mother always saying: today is their struggles, tomorrow it might be ours. I’m a foster parent. And I have just adopted 2 boys. one is 3 years old and the other is 2 years old. Am ready to adopt my 16 year old daughter. I don’t share much info about the whys they were taken from their parents. I feel that when the time comes I want to be the one to let them know. I make sure that they see their siblings and I constantly tell them how lucky I am to adopt them. my 3 year old sees his parents on holiday. I have learn to be very careful around them. I know is been hard for them to lose their child. so when we get together it doesn’t bother me when my son cause his parents mom and dad. I tell my 3 year old how lucky he is to have 2 set of parents who love him. I would love to do the same for my 2 year old but because of their situation is not possible. however I do tell him how much his parents love him. I even have a pic of their parents on their lifebook. One thing I have learn form my mother always saying: today is their struggles, tomorrow it might be ours.

]]> By: RavenSong http://domestic-infant.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/not-about-me/comment-page-1#comment-30 RavenSong Wed, 08 Jul 2009 10:44:58 +0000 http://u-s-infant.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/07/02/not-about-me#comment-30 Thanks for clearing that up for me. I was just confused -- I wasn't saying that you were wrong for not writing the specifics down. I totally get it why you wouldn't want the whole world to read about your family. Thanks for clearing that up for me. I was just confused — I wasn’t saying that you were wrong for not writing the specifics down. I totally get it why you wouldn’t want the whole world to read about your family.

]]> By: Robyn C http://domestic-infant.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/not-about-me/comment-page-1#comment-29 Robyn C Mon, 06 Jul 2009 05:59:31 +0000 http://u-s-infant.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/07/02/not-about-me#comment-29 In this post, I'm blogging about not blogging. I have a personal blog, which is open only to friends. I write there because I need help and support dealing with the issues raised. But I won't write specifics here because anyone can read it. In this post, I’m blogging about not blogging. I have a personal blog, which is open only to friends. I write there because I need help and support dealing with the issues raised. But I won’t write specifics here because anyone can read it.

]]> By: Mandy W http://domestic-infant.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/not-about-me/comment-page-1#comment-28 Mandy W Sun, 05 Jul 2009 23:59:33 +0000 http://u-s-infant.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/07/02/not-about-me#comment-28 You are so right! It is not about "me". I try and remember that whenever I talk about the adoption or anything personal about the kids. Whatever we say can come back to haunt us and I don't think it is right for others to know more than the kids know. In time they will know everything and then they can share what they want to share. If someone asks me a personal question I often say,"We don't share a lot of personal information." Direct, to the point and polite for the most part.<br /> <br /> I am this way with my bio kids a lot as well. I don't want to embarass them and make them feel as if I'm a gossip. I want them to trust me and know I won't blab all of thier secrets. Even if they are not "important" to me, they are to them!<br /> <br /> I hope the situation works itself out well for all of you. You are so right! It is not about “me”. I try and remember that whenever I talk about the adoption or anything personal about the kids. Whatever we say can come back to haunt us and I don’t think it is right for others to know more than the kids know. In time they will know everything and then they can share what they want to share. If someone asks me a personal question I often say,”We don’t share a lot of personal information.” Direct, to the point and polite for the most part.

I am this way with my bio kids a lot as well. I don’t want to embarass them and make them feel as if I’m a gossip. I want them to trust me and know I won’t blab all of thier secrets. Even if they are not “important” to me, they are to them!

I hope the situation works itself out well for all of you.

]]> By: RavenSong http://domestic-infant.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/not-about-me/comment-page-1#comment-27 RavenSong Sun, 05 Jul 2009 13:43:07 +0000 http://u-s-infant.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/07/02/not-about-me#comment-27 Um, I'm confused. If you don't feel like you have the right to be sharing Jack's or his birthparents' stories, why blog about it? Um, I’m confused. If you don’t feel like you have the right to be sharing Jack’s or his birthparents’ stories, why blog about it?

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